Whether yours is a struggle to make a girl you like like you back or just a desire to turn up your charm offensive so that ladies will keep falling in love with you, here are five rules absolutely worth trying.
- Make your life interesting: This is like, literally the foundation of starting a great relationship and will give you the starting base to make her like you. When you are trying to get into a relationship or make a girl like you and you have a boring, uninteresting life, your job is almost five times more difficult. If on the other hand you make your own personal life interesting, girls will flock. To be truly attractive, you need to have your own life by working on yourself, become great at your job and career and other hobbies or passions you have. If you become so good at what you do that you rise to prominence at it, women will become drawn to you, Because, of course, fame and the spotlight always brings the girls to the yard.
- Make her Laugh: This is a great tip. You may think you’re not funny, but the truth is everyone can be funny if they try. You have to put yourself in enough situations to get used to the awkwardness of telling an unfunny joke enough that you have the confidence to tell more jokes around people. The more you tell, the better you will get. Girls love laughing, and the more you can make them laugh, the higher up in the social chain you will seem.
- Be friends: Aim for friendship, even if the long term [or even short term] plan is to delve into some deeper relationship at some later time. You win and score big points with women if you can just be a cool guy, easy to gist and joke with, and just be great with them.
- Share Intimate details: Tell her a secret about you, something personal that not very many people know. This will open the door for trust and as you tell her things about you, she will notice that you trust her, which in turn will make her trust you more. It will also make her feel so, so special to you and you can hardly go wrong with this. It is recommend telling her secrets you’d be okay with if other people knew just in case she tells someone, but make sure they are personal, and that they would be considered a secret.
- Give her Your attention: In a world where your attention can go anywhere, it is one of the most valuable things you can give a girl. If you want her, pay attention to her. And do not just limit this to a couple minutes. Look her in the eyes when she’s talking to you and make mental note of all the stuff she’s talking about.
- Make Her Chase You: You might be used to chasing women, but you need to start getting used to women chasing you. The best way to do this? Create priorities and cultivate a sense of abundance. Imagine that you have a smartphone full of the most beautiful, intelligent, interesting and successful women in the world. Pretend that this is already your reality. A lot of guys clear their schedule for women. Instead, they should prioritize their time for the women that are worth it. Not being available all the time and cultivating this abundance mentality is the best way to have women chasing you.
- Let It Be Known That You’re Dating Around: When you’re being actively social, it’s inevitable that you’re going to meet multiple women that catch your interest. The abundance mentality we talked about in the first section will become less and less a matter of “acting as if” and more and more a reality. Congratulations! Your social dreams are coming true; But you have to be honest with women about the fact that you’re dating others. Not only is it the right thing to do, it also increases your social worth — you aren’t a man who takes the first woman who comes along, you’re a man waiting for the right woman to enter his life.
- Be a Man of Action: For a complex series of evolutionary reasons, men are supposed initiate while women pace them. One of the best ways to make women fall in love with you is to start being the man of action and decision that women want. This means going after what you want, coming to her with plans for dates, moving the relationship forward and things like that. Decisive action can be hard for some men to cultivate, but it’s a powerful ally when you get it working for you.
- Call Her: You’d be amazed at how big of a difference just picking up the phone and giving her a call can make. You can call her just to have a chat and catch up on your week and get to know each other better. Alternately, you can call her to make plans for the weekend. No matter why you call her, you’re accomplishing two things: 1. You’re showing yourself as a decisive man of action who does things that most other men do not. 2. You’re communicating in a more effective manner. Very little in human communication has to do with the words you use. Most of it has to do with body language and tonality. Phone calls don’t get the body language, but they do get the tonality, making for a higher quality of interaction. Telephone calls might seem a little old school, but I promise that they’re going to work for you.
- Build Deep Connections: When you start talking to a woman, there’s a lot of playful flirtation. That’s great. It helps both of you to relax and there’s nothing quite like the electric anticipation of flirtation. However, to get her to fall in love with you, you need to build a deep emotional connection. The best way to do this is to pick up on the core emotional content of what she’s saying. Here’s a couple examples:
- She Says: “My job is kind of cool. You wouldn’t think that being a personal assistant would be all that interesting, but every day is basically a totally new day. Very few days are the same as the one before them.”
- You Say: “Yeah, having a job that’s always challenging you and giving you new things to do can be really exciting.”
- She Says: “I grew up in a small town in New England. It was nice… safe. But it was also really boring.”
- You Say: “I grew up in New York City, so I kind of had the opposite. I get how the safety can be nice, but I definitely loved always having something to do.”
This acknowledges that you’re listening to her, but it also connects what you have to say to what she just said. This allows a deeper emotional connection to blossom between the two of you.
These tips are easy things that just about any guy can do. Try them out and see how they impact your social life.